The beautiful month of Ramadaan is right at our doorstep – our hearts are waiting to accept Allah’s special mercy and heal spirituality, Insha Allah! The girls are very excited, already planning their sehri and iftaar menus and waiting to do all the Ramadaan inspired crafts. They are older now, so the spiritual part of Ramadaan also appeals to them and they can’t wait to meet this special month.
I have to admit that I’m very delayed with my savoury-making this year. With this horrendous loadshedding, I was reluctant to prepare too early. So these past two weeks, I’ve been frantically preparing our favourite savouries, cutting and marinating meat, baking our favourite cakes – all to help save precious time during Ramadaan. I mean, the last thing I want to do is slog away in the kitchen for the entire month! We do that the rest of the year, as it is, so for this one month we can worry less about our stomachs and more about our spiritual rejuvenation.
We sat down and made a Ramadaan count down chart which they can eagerly cross off at the end of each fast. I’m planning on downloading some Ramadaan colouring pages and activities for the girls to do, and I got a few inexpensive toys to keep Baby Z occupied during taraweeh time. I bought these cute ramadaan trackers and ‘I am fasting’ badges from Thawaab Bubble.
However, and I must stress this, preparing for Ramadaan is so much more than just the savouries and decor. It’s about turning back to Allah Ta’ala, it’s about reconnecting with the Quraan again, it’s about focusing on our Aakhirah instead of our dunya.
I noted down a few points as to how we can achieve maximum from this month and draw fully from the treasures of Allah Ta’ala:
1. Keep a Ramadaan journal and write down your goals for the month – how much tilaawah you want to read, how much of zikr you want to make. This will serve as an encouragement for you throughout the month.
2. Make a dua list so you don’t forget any important duas especially during tahajjud time as well as at iftaar time when duas are readily accepted.
3. Keep renewing your intention throughout the month; that everything that you are doing is solely for Allah Ta’ala.
4.Remove all enmity and grudges from your heart. If you are not on speaking terms with anyone, then try to mend the relationship before Ramadaan.
5. Those of you with young kids, try not to feel despondent if you can’t do as much ibaadah. Seeing to your kids is an ibaadah in itself, and zikr is your saviour – while breastfeeding, with rocking your baby, while doing school rounds, even while busy in the kitchen. Remember that by facilitating your family members’ Ramadaan, you are also getting a share of the reward.
6. Involve your children too – little ones can have a Good Deed A Day chart or help set a tray to take to the neighbours. For older kids, read to them about the special bounties of this month, make a Quran reading competition and sit and make dua together.
6. Try not to become lax during the days of haidh. Read extra zikr or some good Islamic literature, visit a sick person or listen to the programmes of the Ulema.
7. Try and give extra charity throughout the month. Feed the poor, share your goodies with the neighbours or even cook a meal for someone who is unwell.
8. This is the month of gratitude – I’m planning on doing a Gratitude Journal with my kids and everyday we’re going to write down three things that we are grateful for.
9. Draw up a timetable for how you want to spend the odd nights – don’t let any second go to waste! Try to get rid of time-wasting activities before the month begins and spend as much time as you can in ibaadah.
10. Try to sort out Eid clothing and Eid gifts before the month starts so we are not wasting any time roaming around the malls and scrolling through Instagram.
11. Take time for Eid preparations but don’t let it consume your last few days. Every moment is special and we don’t want to have any regrets once the month has passed.
All in all, try to exert yourself to the maximum during the month! We have the rest of the year for shopping, cooking elaborate meals and socialising – just for this month let us focus on our relationship with our Creator. And let us make an intention to carry on nurturing this bond even after Ramadaan has passed.
May Allah Ta’ala allow is to see Ramadaan in the best of health, may He accept all our efforts and may He always count us from among His chosen slaves.
Please remember me and my family in your special duas!
Wassalam